Loneliness is part of life - let's talk about it. 

We're all affected by loneliness at certain times in our lives. We can feel lonely in a busy city or rural location, on social media or spending time on our own or with others. 

Sometimes admitting we feel lonely can be hard. It’s important to remember that lots of people experience similar feelings of loneliness, and that they can pass.

Common reasons for feeling lonely are:

• Emotional loneliness – a lack of emotional attachment to someone like a close friend or partner
• Social loneliness – a lack of friends to go out with, or who share our hobbies or interests
• Existential loneliness – a sense of being in a room of people you know and still feeling alone.

Some people experience loneliness occasionally – perhaps only at certain times, like Sundays or Christmas – while others feel lonely all the time, which is sometimes called chronic loneliness.

Here are some tips to help deal with loneliness:

1. Keep in touch with people 

Regular chats with friends and family can help to combat loneliness. Just talking to someone in that moment can really help when you feel alone. 

Try to do this regularly, as most of us love hearing from others. Being more sociable might also make it easier to reach out when you notice any signs of loneliness.

Messaging old friends and colleagues or creating a group chat on apps like WhatsApp or Messenger, are good ways to feel more connected.

2. Join a group 

Being part of a group or club is a great way to connect with and meet people. 

Look for groups to join in person or online that focus on things you like or activities you would like to try. 

If you're in a group, remember to always welcome others and involve them, as it can really help anyone who might be shy or lack confidence when meeting new people.

3. Do things you enjoy  

Filling your time doing things you like might be a way to stop you from focusing on your loneliness, which can improve your wellbeing.

Spending time outdoors in green spaces, exercise or sport, reading, and listening to podcasts and radio shows are great ways to boost your mood and occupy your mind.

4. Share your feelings 

Talking more openly about how loneliness affects you can really help. Hearing a familiar voice or seeing a friendly face can also make us feel less isolated. 

Try not to compare yourself with others. Some people only share the good things happening to them, especially on social media, so comparing yourself to others can make you feel lonelier. 

Plus, we can never be sure of what someone else is going through.

More help and support for loneliness:

The NHS mental health hub has advice, audio guides and practical tools to help you: Mental health - NHS

As with any mental health issues, at times they can become overwhelming, and you may experience dark thoughts and feel like there’s no way out. It’s important to know you are not alone and support is available.

CALM – 0800 585858                                                                              

SHOUT – Text SHOUT to 85258 to talk to a trained volunteer

Mind – 0300 123393

Papyrus (under 35s) Call 0800 068 4141 or text 07860 039 967

Abuse – 0808 2000 247 

Refuge – 020 7395 7700

No Panic – 0844 9674848

Bereavement - 0808 801677

Samaritans – Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) or visit samaritans.org

Or speak to your GP or a trusted professional.